Aisha Laar is the lady whose fiancé married her best friend. She bares it all in an exclusive interview with a magazine, Northern Hibiscus
NH:When did you meet Junaid and Farida?
AISHA OC: First, I met Farida in Kaduna. She is a very nice lady and we clicked instantly. We have been friends for a while, we both are schooling in Kano. So we were always together, I sleep in her house sometimes she sleeps in mine. We eat from the same plate, that’s how close I am with Farida. She knows my every move and she knows all my secrets. For Junaid, I met him last year, precisely 25th of February 2016 and we clicked instantly. He is a very caring person and would put you over himself. He is very selfless and I fell hard. He is a passionate person and he has sacrificed a lot for me. He said, ‘Aisha I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I can’t waste time.’
I was so excited and on the 16th of July, Junaidu met my parents and paid my bride price! He paid N100,000 Sadaki and N50,000 kudin gaisuwa. I was overjoyed! They fixed 26th of December for the wedding Fatiha! Everybody that knew me knew Junaid!
NH: Is he a wealthy man? Why are two friends fighting over him?
AISHA OC: He is very caring (yana da rufin asiri ALHAMDULLILLAHI) not money but his nature I think. Mind you, we didn’t fight over him. I never knew they were dating.
NH: So what happened afterwards? Why didn’t you get married on the 26th of December?
AISHA OC: Every thing was fine up until he started having trust issues. He felt Farida was influencing me and he wanted our friendship stopped. But the strong head girl inside me wouldn’t bow to that. Farida is my friend and she is a nice person. I saw nothing wrong in being friends with her. He became paranoid. Every time I went out with friends he became super uncomfortable. We fought constantly. Clearly, he had an informant close to me. I wouldn’t lie and say I didn’t have male friends but when Junaid came and stated his intentions, I did away with them and he knew. I wanted to marry him. Junaid is the clingy type who would call you 10 times a day ( I loved that about him)so after one major fight we had he went mute for a whole week!It felt pretty strange. I was heart-broken, I missed him but kunsan jan aji, I didn’t call. We later came back together but the relationship has been strained! We unanimously shifted the date to 2nd week of February 2017.
NH: So, how did Junaid and Farida meet?
AISHA OC: They knew each other because whenever he visited me, we went out together. I would not know when they started. But what keeps coming to me is, I think I am not sure. Junaid has a habit of calling my friends to complain to them about me, whenever we fought, they called me talk to me and we got back together. I think that’s how they started talking. I might be wrong. (ALLAHU YA ALLAM)
NH: When last did you see Farida?
AISHA OC: I saw her when we were going on holiday in December, and we had a brief convo. She asked me when our marriage was holding since we shifted it and I told her its sometime in February, she now told me her sister was getting married around that time she hoped it would not clash. We said our goodbyes and left. That was the last time I saw her. I called her a few weeks after then to go to a birthday dinner which we later canceled.
NH: Take us through what happened afterwards and how you came to know?
Aisha OC: Early March, I got a whatsapp message from a friend of mine. The message stated that Farida was getting married and her aso-ebi was N6000. I was so upset and disappointed. How would Farida be getting married and not tell me? I was so bitter that I didn’t even bother calling her. But I replied the message “ALLAH YA SANYA ALHERI.” Almost immediately Farida sent a broadcast message to everyone stating she was getting married by end of March. I didn’t care to ask who because I felt we were friends. I just sent, ‘ALLAH ya kaimu.
After a few days a friend of mine called me, she asked, ‘Did you hear Farida is getting married?’ I said, ‘Yes, we are painting Kaduna black and blue soon!’ Then, she said, “Anyway, you better sit down for what I am about to tell you. People have been hiding it, but I can’t hide this from you.’ Kawai! My heart started beating faster! What was it? She continued, “Do you know who Farida is marrying?’I said, ‘No, I told you, I don’t know anything! The friend said, ‘She is marrying your Junaid!’ What! I became numb! Everywhere turned black, my tongue dried.
Farida and Junaid? No! You must be joking! That day, I couldn’t sleep and I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t function.
NH: When you called him what was his excuse? Did you call Farida?
AISHA OC: I have not called him, I would leave him with his deed. I didn’t call Farida either. I have left them with the Karma that would catch up with them.
NH: Personally, if this happened to me, I would want to see him or at least talk to him and her as well…
AISHA OC: People have been pressurizing me to call or confront them, but for what?
NH: But you kind of confronted them on Instagram with the infamous post that went viral.
AISHA OC: Yes, kind of. I was upset, dry and I wanted to tell the world my pain. How my two close people betrayed me. I just posted to get some sort of relief. I had no idea it would get the attention it got. That said day, walahi, I got over 500 calls. I was overwhelmed. My friends were calling me from all over, I felt loved. I was happy.
NH: What does the future hold for you Aisha?
AISHA OC: I am a strong person. I didn’t know I would be able to handle it but I have and life goes on! I pray to get a fantastic God- fearing man that would love me with all his heart. (laughs) I am a hopeless romantic! You can understand how crushed I am!
NH: Do you have any message for Junaid and Farida, I know they might come across this.
AISHA OC: Duniya ce, ta ishi kowa riga da wando (Karma)
