Remember her? Ese Walter?
Do you still remember the Yoga instructor and therapist, who revealed in 2013 that she had an affair with the Senior Pastor of the Commonwealth of Zion Assembly, Biodun Fatoyinbo?
Indeed she tapped media attention then.
She still does and has recently reflected on how her life changed after the controversy.
The mother of three spoke on the development in a lengthy post shared via her Facebook page on Sunday.
Walter recounted how her life turned around and how marriage didn’t even help issues.
She wrote: “Marriage was supposed to be the escape.
“Shortly after the 2013 blog went viral, I left the country.
“It was hard to do anything.
“Biodun himself said if I told, my life would be destroyed.
“I believed him.
“Perhaps that belief propelled me down the aisle.
“They say behind every anger is fear.
“My seemingly great anger was laced with greater fear.
“I knew life would not be the same again and I didn’t know what else to do.
“Some friends turned on me, Mother said I was a seductress and wanted to bring the man of God, down.”
Walter recounted how the people she thought loved her remained silent all through her ordeal.
She added: “I couldn’t imagine the shame the people who loved me felt but I can remember the silence.
“I remember the shame, guilt and uncertainty that covered me like a blanket.
“What was I going to do with my destroyed life?
“Get married.
“Start a family and focus there.
“For someone who didn’t have marriage plans before that time, I suspected it was a wrong move but I figured I could handle it.
“After marriage, I didn’t know how to integrate the new human that was suddenly my new family.
“I saw him as a stranger.
“Kind of like how I perceived Father in Mother’s eyes.
“Father didn’t feel like her family which only confused the family that they built for me.”
The mother of three recounted how her marriage was a sham.
She said: “It was as though Mother and her children were the family and Father was the bringer of things…
“It took a while to notice I had created the same dynamic in my own family.
“My kids felt like my family and their dad felt like the stranger that sleeps in the house sometimes.
“Then there was the growing resentment toward the stranger.
“I don’t even remember why but I remember that there was always something hanging in my mind about him.
“Plus, when he did things that I thought were wrong, forgiveness was not an option.
“I’d move out and start thinking of a divorce.
“It was as though if I got into the marriage to satisfy something but had no plans of building or working on it.
“As my children came, my focus shifted more.
“I became a stay-at-home mum and did my best with keeping house matters and the little humans moving.
“Anytime I complain about my partner, I hear, ‘go and work.’
“Mother said he was going to leave my stay-at-home ass for a working woman one day.
“She said I’d soon be below his level (whatever that means).
“As much as I tried to act like her talk didn’t bother me, the words haunted me many times when I’d be in the kitchen making a meal or when I’m up at 2am tending to a newborn.
“The gossip blogs continued to drag the blog story wherever Ese Walter was mentioned, despite Ese Walter marrying husband and birthing babies.
“The marriage wasn’t what I thought it would be.
“I was a single-married woman and if I complained, it was, ‘at least you have your children to focus on.’
“I didn’t get married to an adult man to now focus on small children.
“I tried though.
“I focused on the little people, I learned about the early development of the brain, I learned about regulating one’s nervous system, I examined why I shout, why I doubt myself and how to manage my wounds so I don’t bleed on my children.
“The marriage didn’t survive.
“It was actually dead from the start and finally went under.
“Sometimes I’d crawl back to make peace and try to be a wife.
“I would decide not to check phones, don’t ask too many questions about why he wasn’t home or where he went….
“Just be a loving wife and ignore those inner longings and questions.
“But it was hard to pretend not to feel when I am familiar with my emotions and have been since I was little.
“When I left the last time, it was with no money, no plans and three children.
“Life was going to bury us or I was going to win.
“Life has not yet buried us.”
It will be recalled that in 2013, Walter revealed that she had a week-long affair with Fatoyinbo that left her scarred enough to abandon the church.
Though she admitted that she was not raped, Walter felt manipulated and abused by Fatoyinbo, who she said subsequently played mind games on her to keep the affair between them.
She noted that he impressed upon her the “Touch not my anointed” doctrine to keep the affair from becoming public knowledge.