Ladies, Make The First Move If Your Guy Is Slow To Propose

While some guys are good at proposing to a woman, some depend on the woman to help out.

Ladies, it is not indecent to show the green light! Popular comedian, Bright Okpocha aka Basketmouth said his wife, Elsie, made the first move, he said:

“If I want to judge by who said the first word to the other, technically, she made the first move. I was promoting my first show in front of her hostel. I was with friends and she strolled past and said, ‘Basket mouth, I love your jokes,’ and walked on. Then I ran after her and the rest is now history.”

What to do?

1. Be the perfect girl

Be the perfect woman for your man. Let him understand that he’s got everything he’s looking for in a woman.

2.Take care of him

Make your boyfriend a better man. Make him genuinely realise that he can’t live without you or your advice. Often, men need someone to lean on from time to time. He will really realise how much you mean to him when you support and stand by him.

3.Take him on a date

Sometimes all a man needs is a little bit of encouragement. He may be worried about how and when to pop the question, so why not hand him the perfect opportunity and take him somewhere romantic to help him out.

4.Have a frank conversation
Do you see yourself together? If not, it’s probably best to reconsider your plans. If he cannot see himself with you now and you wish to get married, then the alarm bells should be ringing in your head. In case he says he’s unsure about marriage, that doesn’t mean you leave but you certainly need to go a little slower.

5.Don’t become too comfortable
Don’t get into the serious relationship lifestyle and forget about your own life and friends. Have a life of your own as well as ambitions so he realizes you can do without him. It’s an intelligent way to make him understand that you can live your own life without him. Guys always want to feel dependable, which gives them more control over the relationship and how it progresses.

6. Don’t frighten him

Avoid talking so much about weddings if he hasn’t actually proposed. He might panic and over-think about things. For example, don’t go on and on about this perfect venue, the designer dress you like and how much you’re going to need for the catering. Unless he’s a rich guy, chances are your lavish plans could scare him off a little.

7.Retain your friends

Always make him secure, but drop some hints about the guys who are after your affection. Men easily tend to take things for granted. By letting him realise that there are several other guys after you, you’re making him realise that even though you love and care for him very much, you are still not a soft touch. A man will realise your worth only when he thinks you’re a prize he needs to fight for.

8.Show him you’ll be a great wife

Be extra helpful and extra sweet to him. Men love being pampered. Wash his clothes, cook and look after him when he is sick. These actions alone can go a long way. He’ll suddenly remember his mother and he’ll realize that he needs to marry someone like her… and that’s you.

9.Not sex, please
Don’t offer your body hoping to get a proposal. This is because men won’t want anything more than dating if they’re getting all their needs met. Just pull back a little. Make him feel your absence and want to propose. Make him realize just how miserable he will be without you.

10.Be patient

It pays to be patient. The moment you are sure you are doing everything right, relax and, please don’t think of taking the responsibility yourself and proposing. In most cases, it’s usually odd for a woman to propose to a man. That should be his call.