To the Elegushis, this is a rare celebration. It’s a moment to thank God for seeing them through two decades of being together without records of woes. It’s celebrating an unbroken bond of love and loyalty. For the highly revered monarch, Oba Saheed Ademola Elegushi (Kusenla III), the Elegushi of Ikate Kingdom, their 20th wedding anniversary, which took place in May 2023, is to celebrate a woman who has stood as a rock of Gilbratar with him despite all odds. For the pretty queen of Ikateland, Oloori Sekinat Aramide Elegushi, this 20th wedding anniversary is to rear an altar of thanksgiving to God, who has not allowed detractors have the last laugh in her life and marriage. Though fashionable and displaying gorgeousness in a rare form, she is your typical wife, mother and friend who exhibits an unpretentious humane side that beats the imagination. Style with Oloori is a lifestyle that is unveiled even with the way the palace is being run. She speaks with Lovehaven team in this interview
Lovehaven: How did you meet Oba Saheed Elegushi?
We met at my mum’s shop in Lagos Island, precisely the popular Moshalashi Jimoh fabric market. Then, he had a friend close to my mum’s shop and whenever I was not on campus, I’d be at my mum’s shop. It was one of the holidays when I was at the shop that he just approached me. Initially, I turned him down because I tried to avoid many of the young men around that area. He later told me that he told his friend about me but he was told that I would not answer him. But he kept coming and we became friends. I actually found him to be jovial. Then, he pressed on and asked to date me. I was not ready for that because I had my boyfriend. But he pressed on till I couldn’t resist him. Interestingly, I never knew he was a prince because he didn’t talk about it. We started dating and I recall he asked that I hitch a ride with him in a public transport. He wanted me to ride in the molue! I had never done so because I had a car. He finally convinced me and I did. It was a weird experience for me because I ended up sitting on his laps! I think I liked the experience and it formed part of our memories of growing together. I even lost a gold earring during the molue ride!
Lovehaven: When did you consider marriage?
At some point, I took him to my father who started asking me many questions. I reminded my father that I was in my final year at the university and I was old enough to have a boyfriend. Meanwhile, SA (as I fondly call my husband) was already observing his youth service outside Lagos. He returned after three months, and we knew we had to get married. My dad was not convinced and gave us a month to think about it. After a month I went back to him that we were ready to get married and the marriage plans started. We had a big wedding and we thank God for how far we had come.
Lovehaven: So does he have a nickname he calls you too?
Yes, We all call ourselves SA cause it’s our initials—I am Sekinat Aramide; he is Saheed Ademola and all our children too bear the same initials—Sofiat Adeteniola; Soliat Ademide; Sarina Abisade.
Lovehaven: How did you receive the news of your husband marrying another woman?
It was a tough one for me at that time. I had just lost my mum and I had to cope with that. I didn’t marry a king, I married a young man, who I love and we were growing together, managing and planning. It was really hard at that time; but I came to the realisation that, some of these things come with the demands and pressure of the throne. Why then continue to worry about it? The moment he became a king, I knew issues like this would come up but I have to support and stand by him.
Lovehaven: What’s your greatest fear in life?
Death. But I thank God for his abundant mercy and grace. My husband, my girls and family are all doing well.
Lovehaven: Are there still things you desire in life?
I pray for long life to see my husband continue to do well, his kingdom peaceful and developing. I pray to see my girls achieve great feats and become great women in the larger world. I also pray I am able to achieve more with the Foundation. We want to reach as many vulnerable women as possible, within and outside our kingdom. I hope to be part of a society where women, regardless of their social or marital status, are not allowed to suffer.