How I Had My Twin Boys At 54 Years After 26 Years Of Childless Marriage—Bunmi Olugbodi

Bunmi Olugbodi is based in the United States of America. Married for 26 years, she never had children until the 27th of May 2020 when she had a set of twin boys. Aged 54, she narrates her experience and how she was able to have kids through Invitro Fertilsation  (IVF)

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How does it feel to be a mother at 54?

I thank God for what he has done in my life because I didn’t know that I could become a mother again. I have gone to several hospitals even here in America. In fact, there was a time a doctor asked me ‘do you think you can still have a child? No way. I told him ‘I rebuke it in Jesus name. You are not my God, you are not the one that created me. The lord that created me told me that there shall be no barrenness in his house, so I went back home. I didn’t feel down or moody when I got home. I am always happy because I have hope in God. I told my husband that I wanted to adopt a child after sometimes and he asked if that was what I wanted, I said yes. I said I was tired of treatment. A lot of things have entered into my womb because I want to have a child, I don’t want to do any fertility treatment again and he said if that was what I wanted, it was ok by him. Somebody then introduced a place to us and we started attending the class after paying one thousand dollars to purchase the form. On the last day of the class, a lawyer came to tell us that we will be given a baby but we will first have to disclose our identity to the parents of the baby and that they will be coming to visit us and that when they want their child back, we are going to let them have it. I said after paying a lot of money, and he said yes and that it is according to American law.

We were about 20 couples in the class and they gave us a consent form to fill. I asked if I could go and fill it at home and the lawyer said yes. We left and my husband and I were in the car for about 30 minutes without talking. After a while, he asked me if I still wanted to adopt and I said I don’t know. When we got home, I cried, talked to God and said I was sorry for trying to help myself. My husband now reminded me of what his brother’s wife has been telling about Nordica and I said I don’t want to do any fertility test again that he should leave me alone. Again, my brother’s wife called me and started talking about her friend, Aunty Ranti Olojede, she said yes and encouraged me to go to her husband’s clinic and I consented. One thing I like Nordica about is the fact that you don’t make the full payment at once. After receiving calls from different Nordica staff members, I started making my payments in installment before coming down to Nigeria. I really thank God for what he did through Nordica.

How long have you been married and what challenges did you have that led to infertility?

I have been married since 1994 that was 26 years ago…

And you never had any child or pregnancy in-between?

No child but I had one pregnancy but I miscarried it. Some of my friends called me barren and even came to tell me that they will take me to a herbalist but I told them I was waiting for God’s time which is the best. They will mock you, people can say anything to you but if you have God, call upon him. As my dad used to say that some people will have their children in the morning, some in the afternoon and others in the evening. What God said is that there shall be no barreness in my land.

Did you at any point in time go to the church to pray before taking the decision to try IVF?

I attend Redeemed Christian Church Of God. We watch Holy Ghost service online and anytime I’m watching, I prayed using Pastor Adeboye as a point of contact to my life. In America, I carried my Pastor and his wife along, my brothers are pastors and I carried them along too. They were praying for me then. I don’t think God opposes IVF because he is the one that gave them the inspiration to discover the technology.

So what do you have to say to those who have been waiting for so long but still doubts too whether IVF works or not?

Luke 1 verse 37 says for with God, nothing shall be impossible. There is nothing God cannot do. If you are trusting God for the fruit of the womb, don’ fight anyone, don’t keep malice with anyone, even if someone mocks you because you don’t have a child, you don’t have to fight back because you can’t fight your battle all by yourself. Only God can fight your battle for you. Put your trust in God before using any medication. Even if you try IVF without faith in God, the IVF is going to fail. You have to believe that God has been using these fertility experts for people and he must use them for you. If you see people having children or doing well, rejoice with them.

You must have waited for about 26 years before having these priceless jewels. Was there a period in time when you had pressures from your in-laws or immediate family members?

My in-laws are wonderful people. I thank God for them and my husband. My husband is not just a husband but my father. Any time I’m down, he would encourage me and ask if I thought I was as old as Sarah in the Bible who had her first child at 90 and that there is nothing God cannot do. My family is awesome too. They kept praying for me. I thank God for all of them.

What was the feeling when you had the babies?

My brother that 27th of May, immediately the Dr gave me the first baby and announced twin ‘A’, what came out of my mouth was (sings in Yoruba ‘ibite sin mi de, me ma mo p emo le de be, mo yin o logo o). Where you have accompanied me to, I never thought I would be able to get there, I give you the praise. A minute after, he announced the arrival of the second twin and I said to God be the glory. Everybody including the white doctors started singing with me. I was so happy that I started shedding tears of joy. Even up till today, if I look at those babies, I still find it difficult to believe that I carried them in my womb and gave birth to them.

Did you have the babies by natural birth too?

At 54? It was surgery  but my doctor said he wanted me to feel the pain of motherhood so he said I should carry the babies to term. He said normally, he was supposed to take them out at 36 weeks but he allowed me wait till they were 38 weeks before conducting the surgery. I give glory to the almighty God because I didn’t even feel any unusual pain till the morning of May 27th when I started feeling somehow and I was rushed to the hospital.

Were your feelings or symptoms different from those who got pregnant by natural intercourse?

Well, I don’t know but what I noticed was that I wasn’t feeling pregnant because I drove to and from work every day, a distance of about 30 minutes. The only thing I noticed was that when I left Nigeria after the implantation, I had a short nap in the plane and in the process, I felt a sharp pain like a menstrual cramp but I told myself that I was already pregnant and that nothing was going to change that. Before the end of the two weeks waiting period, I already knew that I was pregnant and I never felt anything for about four months. I was so strong, agile and active. There was no morning sickness or any other negative symptoms till the 2nd of January when my doctor placed me on bed rest. And I was on the bed rest till I was delivered of the babies.

While you were waiting to conceive, was there a moment that affected your relationship with your family and the people around you?

No. but some of my friends mocked me. People really mocked me but never from my husband, in-laws and my siblings.

After your delivery, what were the reactions of the doctors and other medical staff around you there in America?

After my second baby came out, my doctor told me that do you know that you have fibroid and I said no. because I did series of tests here in America and in Nigeria too and it was not discovered. At Nordica, I did ceroscopy and it didn’t show that I had fibroid. The doctor told me that I had a very big fibroid and that the children were sitting on it. That was why I had bleeding during the pregnancy. So they had to carry out another surgery for the fibroid to be taken out. After the second surgery, the doctor said ‘these children are miracle children. I asked him what he meant and he said despite all the bleeding throughout the pregnancy and during delivery, they are still hale and hearty, I was told I lost about four pints of blood. He said that was his first time of seeing a big fibroid and twins inside the same womb without the fibroid being discovered and the children survived. So I give glory to the almighty God.

SOURCE: CITY PEOPLE Magazine

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