“Why I Married At 31 As A Virgin”
Just as the couple is rejoicing over the birth of their newborn baby which they had recently, there is also the need to correct some issues peddled on social media about their marriage.
For Nollywood actor, Tawa Ajisefini-Alli, life as an actress could get horrendous when you become the talk-of-town in some gossip blogs.
Speaking on a podcast with Biola Bayo, Tawa disclosed her experience in a childless marriage and how some persons tagged her a ‘husband snatcher.’
Married to Mayowa Alli, who is based in the United States, Tawa recalled:
“We got married in February in Nigeria and the next day, people came to my DM on social media and called me a husband snatcher. While some cursed me, others accused me of marrying him after leaving his wife and two kids in the US. How did I snatch him? I met my husband as a single man who had divorced his wife five years before we met. That gave me headache. I saw all the evidence before I married him that he was divorced but he told me he had two children from his previous marriage, even his parents told me too. Then, I travelled to New York, where he lived before I agreed to marry him, I met his friends and I saw that he was single but had two kids. I met his parents and they asked me if I knew that he was divorced with two kids and I responded, yes. I told my mum about him too and she said it’s not bad to marry him as long as he was divorced. After the marriage, I was bullied online that I snatched him..It’s really insane!” she said.
Tawa, who got married in 2019 to Mayowa Alli, confessed that she was a virgin when she got married. “I was around 31 years when I got married but I was a virgin.”
“Reasons I Married A Divorcee”
Asked why she remained a virgin for such a long time being an actress and she said, “I didn’t like men and didn’t want any relationship that would lead to heartbreak. I made up my mind not to lose my virginity to any man except the one who married me.
“Ironically, I waited five years before we became parents. Initially, I wasn’t bothered because I wanted to know my husband more before the kids start coming. I rest assured that I married him a virgin and would get pregnant with ease.
“When my marriage clocked three years or four, I started getting worried and I prayed and did everything I could. We went for medical tests and we were certified Ok. Then, I told God that whenever I get pregnant, I would roll on the floor for Him. At some point, I became agitated and went for several tests even when I had done them before.
Then, I was in Nigeria for my movie production. It was during the production that I fell sick and had to visit a doctor. I was confirmed pregnant after some tests and I told my husband, who also came to Nigeria with me.
It was an emotional time for me and I cried. I was redeemed my vow to God and rolled on the floor.”
Internet Followers And Insults
Mayowa and I got a lot of insults on social media. I never had issues with my in-laws or my husband on my fertility challenge. Rather, some fans were so toxic and called me barren. There were times, I would share a post on Instagram and some followers would tag me barren with an advice that I should go and look for ways to be pregnant. In fact, two weeks to my expected delivery date, someone commented that I was barren and should seek where to be fertile. Most of these commenters are women. Some would even curse me whenever I posted my photos and that of my husband.”
